Dating a recovering crack addict
No one can tell you when it’s time to call it quits except you.Dating a recovering addict can be complicated, but most relationships are.You’ll need to recognize these signs and get involved.Many recovering addicts have done things in the past that result in a criminal record, making it harder to get a job.In working with the spouses and significant others of addicts, I’ve often heard it said, “I’d rather be an addict than love one.” While few people would ever walk eyes-wide-open into a chronic disease like addiction, the statement speaks to the confusion, loneliness and despair common not only among addicts but also the men and women who love them. In fact, addicts who are solid in their recovery can make excellent partners.A history of addiction doesn’t necessarily turn Mr./Mrs. They’ve waged a courageous battle, spending a great deal of time working to take care of and improve themselves.But before you put yourself in a position to fall for an addict, there are a few things you need to know: For anyone considering dating an active addict, it is important to realize that love cannot conquer addiction.Addiction takes priority over everything – you, children, career, financial security, even one’s own freedom.
They may still be working out legal issues and trying to earn their way back into the lives of family and friends.
If they are in recovery, how long have they stayed sober?
Are they actively working a program of recovery (e.g., participating in self-help support meetings, counseling or an aftercare program)?
You can’t change your partner or their past, but you can control yourself.
In any relationship, setting and enforcing personal boundaries is an essential skill.